Stop suppressing

A lot of women tell me:
“I didn’t want to cause a problem, so I just stayed quiet and went along with it.”

But that’s not a healthy or effective long-term strategy.

Suppressing happens when something feels wrong but we don’t want to argue or upset someone—especially a loved one. We tell ourselves it’s better to just let it go.

But it doesn’t actually go anywhere.

It gets stored in our bodies.
It turns into resentment.
It can even show up as physical symptoms—tight shoulders, gut issues, fatigue.

We’re not meant to bottle up emotion.

🌿 So what’s the alternative? Shift.

Outside of abusive situations (where safety comes first), many relationship tensions come from miscommunication, misunderstanding or unhealed wounds.

And one of the most powerful things you can do is shift your perspective.

I had a client who constantly clashed with her mom. Everything turned into an argument, so she tried to avoid her as much as possible.

In our coaching sessions, we uncovered the root of her frustration:
Deep down, she felt like her mom thought she was dumb.

That she couldn’t make good decisions.
That nothing she did was ever good enough.

But when I asked her, “Do you think you’re dumb?”
She said, “No. I know I’m smart. I’m proud of my choices. I wouldn’t change them even if my mom disapproves.”

That right there was the shift.

She realized: This isn’t my story. It’s my mom’s perception—and I don’t have to carry it.

Her mom didn’t change.
Her mom didn’t get coaching.

But she did.

She changed how she showed up.
She softened. She stopped bracing for criticism.
And the tension between them eased.

🔑 We think the relationship will only improve if the other person changes.
But that’s a thought error ❌

Islam teaches us to take responsibility for our actions, our intentions, our side of the story. That’s all we’re accountable for.

And the beauty is—when you shift, everything around you often follows 🪷

If this resonates and you’d like to experience a similar shift in one of your relationships, I’d love to support you. I offer free consultation calls to explore what’s going on and how coaching can help.

Email me to book your free consultation call 📞

[email protected]

Salam 👋🏽, I’m Meha, a life & purpose coach focused on empowering Muslim women to live more fulfilled lives and achieve success on their own terms.