Lighten up

Even when something is serious it doesn’t mean you have to be serious the whole time.

Yesterday I coached a client about the marriage process.

She felt a lot of pressure every time she met someone new.

Her brain immediately jumped to:

Is this the one?
Will this work?
What if I waste my time?

The moment felt heavy before the conversation even started.

When it didn’t work out, the negative though of “ugh another one didn’t work” would take over.

Marriage is serious.
It’s one of the biggest decisions of your life.

But the process of getting there doesn’t have to feel so heavy.

Your brain loves to move into evaluation mode immediately.
Analyzing. Judging. Scoring.

Instead you should practice aliveness in the process of creating your life.

Aliveness means you’re actually living the experience.

Curious.
Open.
Playful with possibility.

Not sitting across from someone thinking,
“Is this my future husband or not?”

Just thinking,

“Let’s see who this person is.”

Even when something doesn’t turn into marriage your life is still richer for the experience.

You met someone new.
You practiced communication.
You learned more about what you value.

That’s not failure.

That’s living.

When we loosen the grip a little, the process becomes lighter and ironically, that’s when we often show up as our best selves.

And the right person doesn’t meet the stressed, hyper-evaluating version of you.

They meet the alive version of you.

If you’re navigating big life decisions like marriage, career, purpose and your brain keeps turning them into heavy pressure-filled moments coaching helps you see what your mind is doing and gives you tools to approach life with more clarity, calm and aliveness.

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