Is it really your parents' fault?

I had a session recently with a woman who believed her strict Muslim Asian parents were the reason she couldn’t marry the man she wanted.

But as we coached through it, she realized her parents weren’t the barrier at all.

This man simply wasn’t showing up.
• He could go days without contacting her.
• Even when she was working near him, he wouldn’t make the effort to see her.
• He never stepped forward to meet her parents or formally ask for her hand.

Yet she clung to small gestures — a gift here, a word there, looking at his social media for a “signal”— and turned them into evidence that he cared.

When I asked, “Doesn’t he have your number?” she said yes.

I replied, “So what’s stopping him from calling or texting you?”

Silence. Because the answer was: nothing.

The hard truth? He wasn’t committed.

But instead of facing that truth, it felt easier to make her parents the bad guys.

👉 This is what happens when we slip into victim mentality. We give our power away to circumstances or other people, instead of owning what’s actually true and what’s actually in our control.

Growth happens when we stop blaming, stop spinning in stories, and start looking at what’s real. That’s where freedom begins.

If you’re ready to break free from blame and take back your power, I invite you to book a free consultation with me. Let’s talk about how you can stop living in stories and start living in truth.

Email me to book your free consultation call 📞

Salam 👋🏽, I’m Meha, a life & purpose coach focused on empowering Muslim women to live more fulfilled lives and achieve success on their own terms.