Frankenstein

One of my clients loves to create Frankensteins in her life.

Here’s what I mean:

She takes a person and pours into them. She gives them all the support, all the wisdom, all the encouragement she can. She teaches them how to be confident, empowers them, and pushes them to grow.

Sounds like a beautiful thing, right?

The problem is… she’s doing it to avoid doing the scary thing herself.

Instead of stepping into discomfort, she builds someone else up to go do it.

Two things happen:
👉 Sometimes that person takes her wisdom, runs with it, and grows. But instead of celebrating, she shrinks and feels left behind.
👉 Or, the other person resents her unsolicited “support” and feels pressured, annoyed, or even overwhelmed.

At the root of this?
She doesn’t feel loved unless she’s useful.
She doesn’t love herself enough to back herself when things get uncomfortable.

And here’s the truth: when you don’t trust yourself to be kind and compassionate with yourself through the messy, scary process… you’ll avoid it. You’ll outsource it.

But Islam teaches us:

“None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

The key is first loving and supporting yourself. Believing in your own worth.

Only then can your support of others come from a healthy place — not as a way to escape your own growth, but as a way to genuinely empower.

When she started to see this, she realized the real work was building that love and trust within herself. That’s what freed her to finally take those uncomfortable steps in her own life.

✨ If you see yourself in this story — always building others but struggling to build yourself — I’d love to help you break the cycle.

Email me to book your free consultation call 📞

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Salam 👋🏽, I’m Meha, a life & purpose coach focused on empowering Muslim women to live more fulfilled lives and achieve success on their own terms.