Feeling lazy?

The lazy version of you isn’t usually lazy. She’s often scared.

One of my clients came to a coaching call this week frustrated with herself. She has goals she genuinely wants to achieve. She knows exactly what she needs to do. Yet when it came time to work toward those goals, she found herself feeling sluggish, distracted and unmotivated.

She thought: “I’m just being lazy.” But when we coached on it, we discovered something deeper. A previous selling experience had been disappointing for her. She didn’t get the results she hoped for. Her brain had quietly filed that experience away as evidence: “Let’s not put too much effort in again. We might get disappointed.” It was self-protection.

Disappointment is not a problem to avoid, it’s a normal part of building anything worthwhile. Disappointment isn’t dangerous. Neither is any other negative emotion your brain is trying so hard to avoid.

At the end of the day, an emotion is simply a vibration in your body. It feels uncomfortable. Sometimes intensely uncomfortable. But it passes through you the same way a cold 🤧 passes through your body. You don’t have to run from it. You don’t have to prevent it. You don’t have to build your life around avoiding it. You simply sit with it and remind yourself: “This feels awful, but it’s not going to kill me.”

In fact, disappointment is evidence that you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to be doing. The presence of disappointment is proof that you’re moving forward.

Our willingness to feel negative emotion is what allows us to create extraordinary results. The solution isn’t to wait until you feel motivated. It’s to direct your brain intentionally.

Progress is still progress, even when it looks small. If you minimize your progress, your brain will believe nothing is working. If you acknowledge your progress, your brain will see evidence that it’s safe to keep going.

For my client, there were actually signs of progress. She had learned from her previous selling experience. She had more awareness, courage and was still showing up. But her brain wanted to dismiss all of that because the outcome wasn’t what she originally hoped for. Don’t let your brain do that to you. Progress compounds when you keep going. And trust Allah with the outcome.

So the next time the “lazy” version of you shows up, get curious before you judge yourself. You may discover that what looks like laziness is actually fear asking for your attention. And if disappointment is waiting for you on the other side? That’s okay. It won’t kill you. But avoiding your goals will keep you from becoming who Allah created you to be.

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