Fabricating anxiety

One of my clients recently received the job offer she had been praying and working toward.

After a long interview process, the official offer letter finally arrived.

She accepted it.

You would think that would be the moment to celebrate.

Instead, her brain went to work.

“Why haven’t they replied to my acceptance? It’s been a few hours.”

“Should I send another email? It’s been 24 hours.”

Then came the fear beneath the fear:

“What if they change their mind? What if the offer somehow gets taken away?”

This is what our brains do.

When there’s no real problem to solve, the brain often fabricates one.

It starts searching for evidence that something must be wrong even when there isn’t any.

The circumstance was simple:

She accepted the offer.

Her thoughts created anxiety:

“Something must be wrong because they haven’t responded.”

Anxiety then convinced her that she needed to do something.

Send another email.
Check again.
Refresh the inbox.
Fix a problem that didn’t actually exist.

Urgency usually comes from discomfort.

When we act from anxiety, we’re often trying to relieve the feeling not make the best decision.

So instead of reacting, we asked:

What tangible evidence do you have that the offer is being taken away?

None.

What evidence do you have that they simply haven’t had time to respond?

Plenty.

She then asked me, “When can I reach out?”

I told her to give it one full business week.

Not because I expected it to take that long, but because I wanted to help her build the muscle of tolerating uncertainty instead of trying to control it.

On the second business day they replied.

They welcomed her to the team and confirmed everything.

She messaged me afterward and said,

“You were right.”

Had she emailed repeatedly out of anxiety, she could have unintentionally created the impression that she was impatient before even starting the job.

As Muslims, we’re called to think well of Allah.

Our brains often predict the worst.

Allah calls us to place our trust in Him.

If Allah opened a door after months of interviews, why immediately assume He is about to slam it shut?

Trust doesn’t mean we never feel anxious.

It means we don’t let anxiety become our decision-maker.

It means we choose thoughts rooted in truth instead of fear.

It means believing the best until there is real evidence to believe otherwise.

How many times has your brain invented a catastrophe only for everything to work out just fine?

If anxiety is making your decisions for you, coaching can help you separate facts from fearful stories so you can respond with confidence instead of reacting from panic.

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