Don't message him

When your brain 🧠 tries to make you do something you know you shouldn’t after heartbreak 💔

My client recently got ghosted by someone she was speaking to with the intention of marriage.

She’s processing it, healing, and doing so beautifully — but her brain kept offering her thoughts like:

“I should check on him.”
“What if he’s testing me to see how I communicate?”

Sound familiar?

This is where the Model — one of the core tools I use in coaching — comes in.
It’s basically the math of the mind: a way to see how your thoughts create your feelings, drive your actions, and lead to your results.

Here’s what her models looked like:

C: He ghosted me
T: I want to check on him
F: Compassionate
A: Message him
R: Either he ghosts again, or she feels worse because no excuse in the world excuses ghosting when he’s been online.

C: He ghosted me
T: Maybe he’s testing me to see if I communicate well
F: Anxious
A: Message him
R: Same outcome — ghosted again or feeling worse.

Through coaching, she could see that her brain was offering thoughts that only created more pain.

And that awareness gave her the strength to not reach out, to process the emotion instead of reacting to it — saving her from more hurt and self-blame.

That’s what coaching does: it helps you untangle what’s happening in your mind so you can respond from clarity, not confusion.

If you’ve been through something like this and want to heal with dignity and peace — I invite you to book a free consultation with me.
Let’s help you move forward with confidence and calm 🤍

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Salam 👋🏽, I’m Meha, a life & purpose coach focused on empowering Muslim women to live more fulfilled lives and achieve success on their own terms.